In one of our advocacy classes, my lady raised the issue of high divorce rates among lawyers. One thing I like about Madam is the practical nature of her teachings. She incorporates things not taught or not part of the law course into her lectures.
This is the beauty of teaching because these issues are of importance to the legal profession. Although it says, it comes with the territory. Find time to address them. No one will teach you how to manage your marriage or your love life, but there are cases where she raised them to instill humility in us as aspiring lawyers.
And her saying at our law school dinner was reinforced by our professional conduct coordinator as well. There, I recognized the urgency of the issue. So I decided to study the literature on this issue. However, in Africa, there is a lack of literature in this field.
It is interesting to see the high divorce rates among lawyers in developed countries. For example, an article by Lily Martis (2017) published by Monster asserts that divorces between lawyers are common in the United States. The divorce rate in the legal field as a whole is more than 35%, and for lawyers and judges, the divorce rate is about 28%. It was with this number that I realized the urgency of the problem.
So, I think law firms should care. This is because your relationship with your spouse or significant other is the relationship that matters most to you. Lawyers and the legal community don’t spend any time talking about this. It affects how you work, how you drive, how you attract customers, and how you bring in new business. The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives, so it’s time to start talking about lawyers, their marriages, and their relationships with partners. This position extends to work at major law firms.
So Harrison Barnes (2020) article explained that the larger the firm a lawyer works for, the higher the divorce rate. Interestingly. He even explained that the divorce rate among lawyers at major law firms is higher than the divorce rate of the public in general. He confirms that when he started his career in a large law firm Every lawyer in the firm has been divorced. Among lawyers for large law firms, the divorce rate among litigants is believed to be higher than in most other areas of practice – but there are exceptions to this as well.
He cautioned that in the event that you want to work with a large law firm — or are currently practicing law with a large law firm — it’s important to understand how practicing law is likely to affect your romantic prospects. It is likely that you will have a hard time keeping any relationship together if you want to get married and stay married in a big law firm.
His article introduced a new area of research into love lives among lawyers as the studies did not take into account the type of firm. He explained that the challenge is serious for employee relations in large law firms in big cities. It’s stressful being a lawyer everywhere, of course, but the big law firms have that special thing about lawyers being crushed.
He further explained: It doesn’t matter if someone is a partner or a partner, a big law firm (in the big city, especially) is just as harsh with every relationship. Partners have a more difficult time staying married than colleagues, counselors, and others. Many people stay in their relationships under the crazy belief that things will get better when someone “makes a partner.” At that point, things hit really hard, because there is more pressure, longer working hours, and it becomes much harder to keep a job when someone becomes a partner than it was before they became a partner. That’s when things really go wrong in relationships because everything only gets worse from there.
What could be the problem? In general, divorce rates vary according to factors such as race, education level, and employment status, and now we have a good picture of how it varies by occupation.
It is logical that in the case of lawyers, the profession itself is another factor. As a profession, lawyers endure significant stress that can negatively affect their relationships. Furthermore, many lawyers prioritize their careers in a way that may make their spouses feel disconnected. It’s true for almost any profession that spending a significant amount of time at work can stress life at home.
Eileen Riley (2018) believes that when two lawyers are married or in a relationship and inculcate the law, the relationship is more likely to break. Hence, lawyers must get rid of the notion of being right in the relationship. The truth is, no one is right. Marriage has two people with two personal viewpoints. There is no absolute truth in your marriage. In addition, lawyers must eliminate the application of rules of evidence in their relationship.
Leslie A. Satterlee is a Partner at Woodnick Law and has been practicing family law exclusively since graduating summa cum laude from Arizona State University’s Sandra Day O’Connor College of Law.
Leslie A. noted. Satterley notes that, regardless of the reasons, lawyers – like everyone else – sometimes get divorced. The difficult thing, according to the expert, is related to the representation of a lawyer in the divorce case. The expert explained that the fact that a person is a lawyer does not mean that he understands family law.
Even attorneys who practice divorce law themselves may find it difficult to see the issues in their case through an objective lens. Every lawyer hears the same adage at some point after entering law school: The lawyer who represents himself cheats his client.
Furthermore, many lawyers find family law to be relatively straightforward and assume that they can handle divorce cases without too much trouble. In some ways they are correct: concepts such as dividing a community’s property roughly in half are simple in theory. However, for a lawyer, divorce is particularly complicated for the following reasons (among others):
1) What is the value of practicing law? Can a lawyer sell a practice in divorce? What if the attorney is a partner in a larger company, is this interest divisible? Does the type of practice matter?
2) How much does a lawyer earn for the purposes of calculating things like spousal support or child support? For a solo practitioner with a different caseload, how is income calculated? What about a lawyer whose clients pay recurring fees (such as a structured injury settlement or Social Security/disability payments over time)?
3) Many lawyers have student loans or have spouses who worked while the lawyer attended school. Is the value of their legal education divisible in divorce? What about student loan debt – can it be divided or is it just tied to the student?
Another added layer of complexity for attorneys obtaining a divorce is their professional reputation. The legal community is small and no one wants his colleagues to know about his ugly custody battle instead of his legal work. Even the judge hearing the case may one day move to another department where divorce lawyers make regular appearances. Even if the case does not go to trial, the pleadings are usually public records (and even if they are sealed, the Internet tends not to be forgiven or forgotten).
For an attorney contemplating divorce, these fears may cause the lawsuit to be postponed in hopes of reconciliation or simply out of fear of the unknown. Consultation with a competent divorce attorney is essential to ensure that the dissolution of the marriage is well-planned and well-executed (sometimes months before a case is filed).
monster.com provided a summary of divorce rates and I have reproduced it here jThose with the lowest divorce rate:
1. actuaries 17%
2. Physicists 18.9%
3. Medical and life scientistsQ 19.6%
4. Clergy 19.8%
5. software developers 20.3%
6. natural therapy 20.7%
7. Optometrists 20.8%
8. Chemical engineers 21.1%
10. Doctors and surgeons 21.8%
12. Podiatrists 22.4%
13. Dentists 22.5%
14. Pharmacists 22.6%
16. Speech and language pathologists 23.2%
17. Directors of natural sciences 23.7%
18. Biologists 23.7%
19. Veterinarians 23.9%
Jobs with the highest divorce rates:
1. Game managers 52.9%
2. Bartenders 52.7%
3. flight attendants 50.5%
4. Game service workers 50.3%
6. switchboard operators 49.7%
8. Telemarketers 49.2%
11. telephone operators 47.8%
12. Massage therapists 47.8%
13. Toy cage workers 47.3%
16. Dancers and choreographers 46.8%
17. Messengers 46.6%
19. Ambulance drivers and escorts 46.3%
20. Small engine mechanics 46.2%
Industries ranked from lowest to highest divorce rate:
2. Computers and mathematics 27.6%
3. army 28.3%
4. Life, physical and social sciences 28.5%
6. health care 31.6%
7. Community and social services 32.5%
9. finance 33.9%
10. legal 35%
12. administration 35.7%
13. Commercial Operations 36%
14. building 36.5%
15. extraction 37.3%
16. Food preparation and serving 37.4%
17. Cleaning buildings and grounds 37.8%
18. sales 38.2%
19. production 38.9%
20. Health care support 39.2%
22. Personal care and service 39.6%
23. Protection services 40%
24. communications 40.5%
25. Office and administrative support 40.6%
Indeed, looking at the statistics, Madam was right in saying that “it comes with the territory” and we cannot escape if we remain in the legal profession. However, something could still be done to improve relations between lawyers.
Take this study, Divorce Among Doctors and Other Health Care Professionals in the United States: An Analysis of Population Survey Data, published in the British Medical Journal (BMJ). The study revealed that doctors were less likely to divorce than lawyers. The results showed that the divorce rate among doctors was 24.4 percent, compared to 26.9 among lawyers. The question is what can we do to avoid a rise in divorces among lawyers as the relationship of lawyers is also important.
prof Rafael Nyarkoti Ubu is Professor of Holistic Medicine. Chair, Nyarkoti University College of Holistic Medicine and Technology, Ghana. It is recently Complete the bar course At The Gambia Law School, Banjul.
This article aims To create or create Love life awareness in lawyers And the need for balance. Email: Professor40naturopathy@gmail.com
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